10 Ways To Be Friends With Benefits (Without Complicating Anything!)
Your crush hasn’t called you after two dates or you’re simply not in the mood to date after you broke up with your boyfriend some time ago. Either way, you do miss the steamy sex and the light flirting in the bedroom. So what’s a quick and temporary solution? Find a friends who offers all of this without the commitment, of course.
But wait—all women know that it will only end up in a messy situation where you’ll end up hurt and lose a friend, right? Not really—you just need to play your cards right. Friends with benefits can be risky, but we tell you how to make it as safe as possible for your heart.
1. Pick A Man Who Is Not Your Type
Don’t go for the men you usually date. Pick a friend who you are least likely to date and is a trusted buddy. This way the chances of you falling for him are minimal.
2. Rules, Rules, Rules
Before you hook up with him make ground rules—no emotions, no crying, nothing. Depending on your comfort level, you can even rule out hanging out alone (without your group of friends) and cuddling.
3. Know That Things Will Get A Little Complicated
Let’s face it—when you are sharing an intimate act with someone, there are bound to be some emotions. But if things start getting a bit complicated, nip the act in the bud before it gets into a full-fledged emotional drama. Lower your expectations or stop sleeping together.
4. Experiment And Have Fun
You’re with a friend who you trust and won’t judge you. What are you waiting for? Go all out and experiment—after all you couldn’t really do it with you ex. But always know where to draw the line, communicate and learn about each other’s comfort level.
5. Keep It To The Bedroom
Stop with the morning kisses and breakfast and cute gestures. You are both FWB—nothing more, nothing less. You don’t have to have a full PDA session wherever you go.
6. Take A Break After Three Months
Psychologists suggest that three months is usually the time when casual sex starts becoming something more. While it depends from person to person, remember that it’s time to take a break whenever you’re thinking about him more than usual. When this starts to happen, meet new people, take up a new hobby or simply take the weekend off.
7. Remind Yourself That He’s ‘Just A Friend’
Repeat to yourself—he’s just a friend. This means he can date other people and so can you. The minute you start feeling jealous or insecure, it’s time to end your little arrangement.
8. Don’t Involve Him In Your Life Too Much
Don’t introduce him to all your friends and family; after all, he isn’t going to marry you. And no point updating him about everything that happens in your life. Try and keep the equation the same as before.
9. Don’t Over Think And Get Carried Away
Finally, a classic mistake that women make—over thinking. No, his messages don’t mean he has feelings, and no, he did not cancel his date because of you. Don’t get carried away and look for imaginary signs. Remember you started hooking up with him because you didn’t love him.
10. Talk To Your Girlfriends
Always keep your girlfriends in confidence, as they’re the ones who will give you reality checks from time to time. Besides, if you do end up getting hurt, they’re the ones who will get you back up on your feet.
So ladies, hope you’re ready to enjoy your single life without being miserable or hurt. Do tell us if you have other interesting way to handle a FWB scenario.
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